All you have the right to ask of life is to choose a battle in this war, make the best you can, and leave the field with honor.
Love can't mature in one room. It has to come out of the full sharing of everything: joys, aspirations, downfalls, all of it. That's the only real path to love.
Research to me is as important, or more important, than the writing. It is the foundation upon which the book is built.