You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You can find yourself by coming into the present.
So, the bottom line is: if you want to live well and die well, you first have to find out what is really important to you and stick to it. With that, you can get out there and get yourself a life, a real one.
Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.
Learn to take on the tone of whatever company you find yourself in.
The wizard [of Oz] says look inside yourself and find self. God says look inside yourself and find [the Holy Spirit]. The first will get you to Kansas.
The latter will get you to heaven.
Take your pick.
You just need to put yourself out there the worst case is you will get rejected but you will get a lot more opportunities that you would if you just never really put yourself out and it may not be an easy thing to do to step outside your comfort zone and really put yourself out there.
Don't wish to be normal. Wish to be yourself. To the hilt. Find out what you're best at, and develop it, and hopscotch your weaknesses. Wish to be great at whatever you are.
If you get yourself killed, I'll find your grave and spit on it," she threatened.
Forget the self and you will fear nothing, in whatever level or awareness you find yourself to be.
Whatever you get paid attention for is never what you think is most important about yourself.